Top 5 Reasons To Not postpone Or Wait But Continue On With Having An Intimate Wedding
For many people it has been difficult to mentally adjust to the reality of having a wedding vastly different to what they had originally planned. I completely understand and empathise with the frustration of it all. However, in reference to the famous words of Winston Churchill, we must ‘Never let a good crisis go to waste’. Essentially, we need to consider the opportunities this all presents. Let’s explore some together:
I had over 300 guests at my wedding, and there were many people present who neither my husband nor I knew. They had no interest in either of us and were just there to have a good time. They came empty handed and left belly full, at our expense. When you have a wedding celebration restricted by numbers, it forces you to really consider the most important people to you that you want there. Intimate weddings truly are some of the most special.
Every person at your wedding is an extra cost. You pay for each chair, each charger plate and table setting, each plate of food, and the more tables required, the more centrepieces, tablecloths, and napkins…you see it all adds up! So when you are restricted by numbers, you are forced to ask yourself the question…‘Is this someone whose meal I would be happy to pay for on a usual day?’ Your answer to that, tells you everything you need to know.
3. You can actually bring your Pinterest Board to life! Over the years, I have been involved in so many Styled Shoots, where we get a space, a couple of models and as a collective of vendors, demonstrate dream designs and looks. Designers and stylists always look forward to styled shoots because it’s a wonderful opportunity to really demonstrate the scope of our creativity and a huge reason for this is the small scale of everything. The bigger your wedding/event, the more you have to make your money stretch, however a smaller function permits you to have the unique tableware and impressive detailing as well as the over the top florals that you gush over in the magazines and on wedding blogs.
4. Now you are spoilt for choice with venue options for your wedding breakfast. Hire a mansion where you can have various experiences planned for different rooms, or have it in your back garden and set up a marquee if you wish. Why not try having it on a boat or an exclusive hotel that is much more affordable now that you are hiring one of their smaller event spaces. We have styled each one of these types of venues, so I am fully aware of the wonderful possibilities they each present.
5. You may decide that you'll do a simple registry and wait to have your big celebration in 2021, however what if you don't get round to it for whatever reason? If you still made the effort to make your intimate wedding extra special, you'll always have that. As someone who has been married 15 years, I am an advocate for prioritising the marriage over the wedding. I would much rather simplify my wedding plans and just get married! The wedding is one very special day, and the marriage, a lifetime of special moments, experiences and memories. Why wait?! And remember, just because a wedding is small, doesn't mean that it shouldn't be fabulous.
Afia Bayayi x
